I think my friend/child/partner is...

I think my friend/child/partner is…Transgender

They might feel uncomfortable, disconnected, or uneasy with their body or with the sex they were assigned at birth. Some people feel anxious, depressed, dysphoric, or upset. They may feel that they do not fit into social roles and norms associated with their assigned sex. This is okay. It is important to consider and few things about their gender: what pronouns do they want to use; how do they feel about their body; what physical changes do they want to make to their body; or what can they do to feel more positive about their identity? You might want to figure out how you are feeling about their gender identity and keep it in check.

I think my friend/child/partner is … Non-binary

The typical gender binary has two distinct gender classifications; male and female. Some people do not fit in either of those genders exclusively. Your friend, child, partner or family member may identify with both genders or maybe you may not identify exclusively with one or the other. They may identify somewhere in the middle. 

There are many different labels that are used to describe being gender non-binary such as; gender-fluid, gender-queer, or gender-creative. Each description is different and unique to each person. Allow the person you know to self-identify, and give that person room to explore, identify and communicate this with you. They may choose to use gender neutral pronouns such as they/them, she/zhir, or ze/zim. They may also choose to use conventional male or female pronouns such he/him or she/her. The decision on what pronouns to use is completely up to them and there is no wrong way to identify.

It is important to consider and few things about their gender: what pronouns do they want to use; how do they feel about their body; what physical changes do they want to make to their body; or what can they do to feel more positive about their identity? You might want to figure out how you are feeling about their gender identity and keep it in check.

I think my friend/child/partner is … Agender

People that identify as agender typically do not identify with any gender. Your friend, child, partner or family member may identify as not having a gender at all. For many individuals they may not have a recognizable gender expression either.  For many identifying as agender is their gender identity for others they choose not to have a gender identity at all.

Your friend, child, partner or family member may feel as though you do not identify as either male or female. They may feel as though they do not identify with a gender at all. They might identify as being gender neutral and may choose to present as such. They may feel as though they do not identify as either male or female. They may feel as though they do not identify with a gender at all. They might identify as being gender neutral and may choose to present yourself as such. They may choose to use gender neutral pronouns such as they/them or ze/hir. They may even choose to use their own unique pronouns.

It is important to consider and few things about their gender: what pronouns do they want to use; how do they feel about their body; what physical changes do they want to make to their body; or what can they do to feel more positive about their identity? You might want to figure out how you are feeling about their gender identity and keep it in check.

I think my friend/child/partner is … Gay?

Male identified individuals who are sexually and/or romantically attracted to other men typically identify as gay. These feelings towards other men usually emerge in adolescence but can emerge later on in life. Some women use the term gay to describe their identity, too. 

Your friend, child, partner or family member may be experiencing sexual feelings that they may not know what to call. They may be experiencing sexual and/or romantic feelings towards other men. They may feel like you are uninterested in a relationship with another woman.  It is completely okay and normal to have these feelings. There is no rush to try to label their sexuality. Some people identify as gay at one point in their lives and may identify as something else at another point in their lives. This is also completely okay.  If they are experiencing these thoughts and feelings, they may be gay.

I think my friend/child/partner is …Lesbian?

Lesbians are typically female identified individuals who have romantic and/or sexual feelings for other women.  Feelings towards other women usually emerge in adolescence but can emerge later in life.

Your friend, child, partner or family member may be experiencing sexual feelings that you may not know what to call. They may be experiencing sexual and/or romantic feelings towards other women. They may feel uninterested in a relationship with another man.  It is completely okay to have these feelings. There is no rush to try to label their sexual identity. Some people identify as lesbian at one point in their lives and may identify as something else at another point in their lives. This is also completely okay.  If they are experiencing these thoughts and feelings, they may be lesbian.

I think my friend/child/partner is … Bisexual

Individuals who are attracted to more than one sex often identify as bisexual. This is typically thought to mean being equally attracted to both men and women. This is not necessarily true. You can be attracted to men and women differently. You may find that you are more attracted to one gender than another and that is completely okay.

Your friend, child, partner or family member may have feelings of confusion and may not know how to identify yourself at first. They may find that you have sexual and/or romantic feelings for people of both genders. They may feel as though you do not fit into the categories of heterosexual or homosexual.  Identifying as bisexual is based on how you see themselves. There is not right or wrong way to identify as bisexual. They may be in a committed relationship with someone of either the same or opposite gender but can still identify as bisexual.

I think my friend/child/partner is … Queer

Queer is an umbrella term sometimes used by LGBTQIA people to refer to the entire LGBT community. Some people use "queer" to define their sexual orientation, their gender identity, or both. It is important to note that the word queer is an in-group term, and a word that can be considered offensive to some people, depending on their generation, geographic location, and relationship with the word.

If your friend, child, partner or family member identify as queer, they might be attracted to diverse gender expression of the same sex, attracted to all gender expressions and identities, or identify as asexual. They might not identify with LGBT labels. Queer people range in expression and attraction in as many ways as there are people.

I think my friend/child/partner is … Asexual?

Typically someone who identifies as asexual does not experience sexual attraction. Being asexual is different from being celibate in that it is an intrinsic part of who you are. Asexuality is not a choice and there is a lot of diversity among those that identify as asexual.

Individuals that identify as asexual can still be in relationships. They have the same emotional needs as everyone else. Many choose to meet their emotional needs by being in a relationship while others choose to be on their own.

Your friend, child, partner or family member may be experiencing a lack of sexual feelings or attractions that you may not know what to call. You may not be interested in having sex with another person. The thought of sex either does not make sense to you or you do not understand why other people are so interested in it. They may feel that you need to have sex because their partner wants to, or because it is what everyone else does.

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