I think I might be...

I think I might be…Transgender

You feel uncomfortable, disconnected, or uneasy with your body or with the sex you were assigned at birth. Some people feel anxious, depressed, dysphoric, or upset. You may feel that you do not fit into social roles and norms associated with your assigned sex. This is okay. It is important to consider and few things about your gender:

  • How do you describe your gender?
  • What pronouns do you want to use?
  • How do you feel about your body?
  • What physical changes do you want to make to your body?
  • What can you do to feel more positive about your identity?

Your gender identity is something only you can determine. The idea or realization that you might be transgender is something that might take a long time for you to discover, or it may happen in an instant. Some people know from an early age that they do not fit with the gender that they are assigned at birth while others do not realize this until they are an adult. There is no set timeline, but if you realize that you are transgender there is support and support services for you.  

I think I might be … Non-binary

The typical gender binary has two distinct gender classifications; male and female. Some people do not fit in either of those genders exclusively. You may identify with both genders or maybe you may not identify exclusively with one or the other. You may identify somewhere in the middle. 

You may be experiencing feelings of disconnect or discomfort with specific gender related parts of your body, or feel as though your body doesn’t match how you feel and see yourself.  You may feel like you identify with more than one gender or maybe that you do not identify with any gender. Sometimes you may feel discomfort in identifying within the gender binary system itself.

There are many different labels that are used to describe being gender non-binary such as; gender-fluid, gender-queer, or gender-creative. Each description is different and unique to each person. You do not have to label yourself. Your gender is personal and how you identify is completely up to you. 

You may choose to use gender neutral pronouns such as they/them, she/zhir, or ze/zim. You may also choose to use conventional male or female pronouns such he/him or she/her. The decision on what pronouns to use is completely up to you and there is no wrong way to identify.

I think I might be … Agender

People that identify as agender typically do not identify with any gender. They may identify as not having a gender at all. For many individuals they may not have a recognizable gender expression either.  For many, identifying as agender is their gender identity for others they choose not to have a gender identity at all.

You might identify as being gender neutral and may choose to present yourself as such. You may feel as though you do not identify as either male or female. You may feel as though you do not identify with a gender at all. You may choose to use gender neutral pronouns such as they/them or ze/hir. You may even choose to use your own pronouns.

I think I might be … Gay

Male identified individuals who are sexually and/or romantically attracted to other men typically identify as gay. These feelings towards other men usually emerge in adolescence but can emerge later on in life. Some women use the term gay to describe their identity, too.  

You may be experiencing sexual feelings that you may not know what to call. You may be experiencing sexual and/or romantic feelings towards other men. You may feel like you are uninterested in a relationship with another woman.  It is completely okay and normal to have these feelings. There is no rush to try to label yourself. Some people identify as gay at one point in their lives and may identify as something else at another point in their lives. This is also completely okay.  If you are experiencing these thoughts and feelings, you may be gay.

I think I might be …Lesbian

Lesbians are typically female identified individuals who have romantic and/or sexual feelings for other women.  Feelings towards other women usually emerge in adolescence but can emerge later in life.

You may be experiencing sexual feelings that you may not know what to call. You may be experiencing sexual and/or romantic feelings towards other women. You may feel uninterested in a relationship with another man.  It is completely okay to have these feelings. There is no rush to try to label yourself. Some people identify as lesbian at one point in their lives and may identify as something else at another point in their lives. This is also completely okay.  If you are experiencing these thoughts and feelings, you may be lesbian.

I think I might be … Bisexual

Individuals who are attracted to more than one sex often identify as bisexual. This is typically thought to mean being equally attracted to both men and women. This is not necessarily true. You can be attracted to men and women differently. You may find that you are more attracted to one gender than another and that is completely okay.

You may have feelings of confusion and may not know how to identify yourself at first. You may find that you have sexual and/or romantic feelings for people of both genders. You may feel as though you do not fit into the categories of heterosexual or homosexual.  Identifying as bisexual is based on how you see yourself. There is not right or wrong way to identify as bisexual. You may be in a committed relationship with someone of either the same or opposite gender but can still identify as bisexual.

I think I might be … Queer

Queer is an umbrella term sometimes used by LGBTQIA people to refer to the entire LGBT community. Some people use "queer" to define their sexual orientation, their gender identity, or both. It is important to note that the word queer is an in-group term, and a word that can be considered offensive to some people, depending on their generation, geographic location, and relationship with the word.

If you identify as queer, you might be entirely attracted to diverse gender expression of the same sex, attracted to all gender expressions and identities, or identify as asexual. You might not identify with LGBT labels. Queer people range in expression and attraction in as many ways as there are people.

I think I might be … Asexual

Typically someone who identifies as asexual does not experience sexual attraction. Being asexual is different from being celibate in that it is an intrinsic part of who you are. Asexuality is not a choice and there is a lot of diversity among those that identify as asexual.

Individuals that identify as asexual can still be in relationships. They have the same emotional needs as everyone else. Many choose to meet their emotional needs by being in a relationship while others choose to be on their own.

You may be experiencing a lack of sexual feelings or attractions that you may not know what to call. You may not be interested in having sex with another person. The thought of sex either does not make sense to you or you do not understand why other people are so interested in it. You may feel that you need to have sex because your partner wants to, or because it is what everyone else does.

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